Through the looking glass darkly? When self-doubts turn into relationship insecurities.

@article{citeulike:3024995, abstract = {The authors argue that individuals regulate perceptions of their relationships in a self-protective way, finding virtue in their partners only when they feel confident that their partners also see virtues in them. In 4 experiments, the authors posed an acute threat to low and high self-esteem individuals' feelings of self-worth (e.g., guilt about a transgression, fears of being inconsiderate or intellectually inept). They then collected measures of confidence in the partner's positive regard and acceptance (i.e., reflected appraisals) and perceptions of the partner. The results revealed that low self-esteem individuals reacted to self-doubt with heightened doubts about their partners' regard, which then tarnished impressions of their partners. In contrast, high self-esteem individuals reacted to self-doubts by becoming more convinced of their partners' continued acceptance, using their relationships as a resource for self-affirmation.}, address = {Department of Psychology, State University of New York at Buffalo 14260-4110, USA. smurray@acsu.buffalo.edu}, author = {Murray, S. L. and Holmes, J. G. and MacDonald, G. and Ellsworth, P. C. }, citeulike-article-id = {3024995}, issn = {0022-3514}, journal = {Journal of personality and social psychology}, keywords = {love, psychology}, month = {December}, number = {6}, pages = {1459--1480}, posted-at = {2008-07-21 17:48:39}, priority = {0}, title = {Through the looking glass darkly? When self-doubts turn into relationship insecurities.}, url = {http://view.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9914664}, volume = {75}, year = {1998} }

TY - JOUR ID - citeulike:3024995 L3 - citeulike-article-id:3024995 TI - Through the looking glass darkly? When self-doubts turn into relationship insecurities. JF - Journal of personality and social psychology VL - 75 IS - 6 SP - 1459 EP - 1480 AD - Department of Psychology, State University of New York at Buffalo 14260-4110, USA. smurray@acsu.buffalo.edu SN - 0022-3514 N2 - The authors argue that individuals regulate perceptions of their relationships in a self-protective way, finding virtue in their partners only when they feel confident that their partners also see virtues in them. In 4 experiments, the authors posed an acute threat to low and high self-esteem individuals' feelings of self-worth (e.g., guilt about a transgression, fears of being inconsiderate or intellectually inept). They then collected measures of confidence in the partner's positive regard and acceptance (i.e., reflected appraisals) and perceptions of the partner. The results revealed that low self-esteem individuals reacted to self-doubt with heightened doubts about their partners' regard, which then tarnished impressions of their partners. In contrast, high self-esteem individuals reacted to self-doubts by becoming more convinced of their partners' continued acceptance, using their relationships as a resource for self-affirmation. KW - love KW - psychology AU - Murray, SL AU - Holmes, JG AU - MacDonald, G AU - Ellsworth, PC PY - 1998/12// UR - http://view.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9914664 ER -